Do you put yourself last on your to-do list? Do you overwork yourself until you can barely keep your eyes open? If so, then you might be a people pleaser.
People pleasers are known to be selfless, kind, and caring. But they also tend to put other people's needs before their own. Some people-pleasers are so good at pleasing others that they can be mistaken for being weak or even as pushovers. Your tendency to show up and support everyone may be very helpful and positive for others, especially if you're a parent or a teacher, but not so great if you're a freelancer or entrepreneur.
Some people pleasers are also procrastinators as they tend to over-commit and feel demotivated and overwhelmed by the amount of responsibility they've taken on. However, they will do anything to avoid conflict and confrontation - hence they find it near impossible to say 'No' to requests. This puts them in a difficult position when it comes to managing their time.
As a people pleaser, you are likely to say "yes" to everyone, which can leave you feeling drained, angry, unhappy and resentful. In time, it can all lead to burnout too.
Take this quick test to find out if you might be a people pleaser struggling with procrastination.
It’s important to take care of yourself and to remember that you are just as important as everyone else in your life. You deserve to be the first priority on your to-do list, so that you can make sure that you are able to do the things you love and be there for the people you care about.
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